I’ve had male best friends throughout my life, and not once have I ever felt the need to interfere with their relationships. Why would I? I’ve always been the friend who says, “Please, take him – and don’t return him.” My twisted sense of humor.
And for the clarity, I’ve never crossed any lines with my male friends. I carry myself with respect, and I don’t blur boundaries. That kind of entanglement has never appealed to me.
But there’s another type of “best friend” out there – the one who quietly sabotages every woman he dates. She’s the one who’s secretly in love with him, overly protective, emotionally attached, and constantly inserting herself into his romantic life. She becomes the unofficial gatekeeper, the hidden rival, the person who ensures no relationship ever gets off of the ground.
That dynamic is unhealthy, messy, and deeply unfair to everyone involved. It’s an ‘ew’ all around. Truly – run. And honestly, if a man has a “best friend” he’s slept with, or one who consistently undermines his relationships, it’s a sign to walk away. You’re stepping into a triangle you didn’t ask for.
Meanwhile, I’ve always been the opposite – the friend who supports his happiness, respects his relationships, and tells the truth when needed. That ‘s what genuine friendship looks like.
Sincerely – as my male friends and their wives laugh, because they know my sense of humor and exactly how I mean it. With that said… truthfully, I adore their wives more than them – as it should be. Your spouse should be your best friend.
Jennifer Nicole Nelson, Principal Designer
