I would like to clarify a misconception that has been circulating. I do not believe that being repeatedly yelled at constitutes an emotional affair. From the moment I met Spencer Gloger, his primary mode of communication toward me was raising his voice — whether in person at the bar, through direct messages, or through text messages. This pattern continued for years.
There was no emotional closeness, no intimacy, and no connection that would characterize an emotional affair. What occurred was persistent anger directed at me, not an inappropriate relationship. My marriage had already ended, which Spencer knew, and nothing about my interactions with him changed that reality. The only exception was discovering that Spencer had been dishonest about being in a relationship; once I learned the truth, I ended it and told him, in my exact words, to “lose my number.” Are we clear.
Others have witnessed or experienced similar behavior from him, so my perspective is not unique. Throughout this entire situation — including the verbal abuse — I tried my hardest to remain polite and respectful, at least until 2015, when the ongoing hostility made that increasingly difficult. Any suggestion that this dynamic constituted an emotional affair is inaccurate and misleading.
Healing, always,
Jennifer Nicole Nelson, Principal Designer
